Tuesday 25 November 2008

Dating

I am finally ready to get back in the game and start dating again - but how do I it?
I have never had to put myself out there, things just sort of happened in the past so I don't really know how to go about getting myself out there.
There are guys out there that I fancy and would like to go out on a date with but I don't know how to ask.
I keep talking to my friends about it and getting advice but it is easier said than done.
I do like to think that I am confident but this is so difficult.
I just can't seem to pluck up the courage and ask anyone out.
I need help!

Saturday 15 November 2008

Your ex has a new girlfriend.

This is the bridge that I had to cross this week.
For the last few weeks I have felt really happy with everything and finally felt that I was moving forward but this has thrown me sideways.
The fact that he is seeing someone else really isn't the issue because he has every right to.
The thing that has annoyed me is that three days before I find out about his new bit on the side, he phoned me and told me that he missed me!
What the hell is wrong with him? What good did he think would come out of ringing me to tell me that he missed me and then me finding out he was seeing someone else.
And not only does he have a new girlfriend - he is with the girl who he slept with only weeks after we broke up and who is the same girl who he claimed to just be friends with during the last few months of our relationship and who he had no feelings for.
And to make things even worse as well, he didn't even tell me, I had to find out for my self.
God bless facebook and my investigative journalist side.
I can finally stop letting him back into my life and start to move on properly.
So my next few posts are going to take a bit of a different approach and they are going to focus on being single and happy and not being taken for a ride by the opposite sex.
Unless it's a really hot guy who is worth it!

Sunday 2 November 2008

The First Date

What do you wear? Where do you go? What do you say?
There are no rules for this it is just what you are most comfortable with.
I think a good first date is a relaxed meal, maybe in a pub, and then to the cinema.
The meal gives you a chance to talk and get to know each other and then the cinema gives you time to relax and see how things go from there.
On my first date with my ex that is what we did and it worked really well, except the only film on at the cinema was 'The 40-year-old virgin' so it wasn't the most romantic film but it did make us laugh.
The next thing is what do you wear. I was tricked because when my ex asked me out, he asked me if I wanted to go shopping so I thought we were going shopping so when he came to pick me up I was in baggy jeans and a t-shirt but he didn't make that much of an effort either so it wasn't too disastrous.
Then there is the hardest part of all - how do you end it?
When he dropped me off I wanted him to kiss me so I hovered in the car for too long to see whether he was going to get the signals but he was a typical boy and didn't get the signs.
But after realising that he missed his chance I got a call a few hours later and he came back to my house and we went out for a walk and sat on the park for a talk and then I got my goodnight kiss.
There are no rules for your first date but it is up to you where you want it go and what you want to happen.