Sunday 12 December 2010

Taking a friendship to the next level

Picture this: you have been friends with someone for a long time and you slowly start to develop feelings for them.
What do you do? Do you take the plunge and start up a relationship or do you keep things the way they are?
If you do take the plunge what happens if it doesn't work out? Then not only have you lost a partner but also a friend. And what will that mean for your mutual friends?
But if you are already good friends then you already know that you get along so there is a good chance of you being able to make it as a couple.
Or you could keep things as they are and stay as friends but then there is always going to be your underlying feelings.
I think this could be one of the most difficult decisions to make.
Have you ever been faced with this dilemma? What would you do?

Monday 15 November 2010

The results are in - the number one weird crush for 2010 is...

As my last post was quite serious I thought I should follow it up with something light hearted.
The results for the top 25 weird crushes as voted by Heat magazine readers are now in.
So who got the number one spot? Not so fast.
Back in May I shared with you who made the 2009 hot (or not) list and Derren Brown took the prestigious top spot.
A few of this year's new entries include Masterchef's Gregg Wallace and John Torode who just made the cut at numbers 25 and 24 respectively and perhaps the biggest shock in the countdown - the man from the 'Go Compare' adverts who just missed out on the top 10 at number 11.
But I am so pleased to reveal that the winner is probably one of the most sincere and sweet men to grace television and is one of the funniest people I have ever heard - have you guessed it? This year's number one Weird Crush goes to the wonderful Karl Pilkington.
Love this man and well done to everyone for voting for him.
Check out who made up the rest of the list.

The first cut is the deepest

I heard this song the other day and as I listened to the words I realised that this is how I have been feeling lately.
The reason why I have been so closed off from men recently is because I don't ever want to get hurt again.
I got so hurt the first time I opened by heart to someone that I won't ever let myself feel like that again because I don't think I'm ready to get my heart broken again.
I won't let myself admit how I feel because if I do and it all goes wrong then I'm right back where I started when I began this blog and so much has changed since then that I can't let that happen.
But saying that I think now I have realised what I have been too afraid to admit to myself for so long that maybe I can start to relax and just let things take their course and see where it leaves me and to not be afraid!

Sunday 14 November 2010

Can you really stay friends with an ex - part 3

I have been pondering the answer to this question for over two years now and have been swaying back and forth trying to give you an answer based on my experience.
And while I think in some circumstances you can stay friends with an ex - in my case I don't think it is going to be possible.
For the past few months my ex and I have slowly been drifting apart, talking less and less and not seeing one another and this hasn't bothered me.
The clincher came the last time I saw him about six weeks and as he was telling me about his life I realised he isn't the same man that I met five years ago.
This is no bad thing but we have less and less things in common and have naturally drifted apart.
We will still keep in touch and it is nice to know that he will always be there for me but it is also nice to know that I no longer rely on him and can move on with my life without him.
Have you ever stayed good friends with an ex? Or do you think it is better to call it a day as soon as the relationship ends?

Wednesday 6 October 2010

Are you afraid of the dark?

A new series of Living TV's Dating in the Dark will be back on your screens next year and it could be you going on your unique blind date.
Auditions for the new series will start soon so to be a part of it email dating@initialtv.com for an application pack.
To apply you must be over 21-years-old, a UK resident and, of course, single!

Saturday 25 September 2010

Love Sucks

At least that's according to Glamour.com's recent poll of the world's sexiest men.
Stars of the Twilight films and TV series The Vampire Diaries have beat usual hotties Brad Pitt and George Clooney to claim the top five spots in this year's poll of 50 which is an array of vampires and werewolves with Taylor Lautner (Jacob from the Twilight series) claiming the number two slot and Robert Pattinson (Edward Cullen from the Twilight series) going straight in at number one.
So what does this mean for poll veterans slipping down to the 30's and 40's with only Johnny Depp making the top 10 at number six?
Take a look at who made the final 50.

Wednesday 8 September 2010

Chantelle and Preston


Now I am ashamed to say I have been watching Ultimate Big Brother and I am rooting for Brian Dowling.
I loved him the first time round and he is definitely the ultimate housemate.
But what shocked me most of all on the opening night was how evil Big Brother can be by putting ex husband and wife Chantelle and Preston back in the house where they first met and fell in love.
Now my ex and me get on really well and are still good friends but I don't think I would be able to be around him 24/7 for three weeks.
Especially when it is very clear that Chantelle has never gotten over Preston.
I don't think the other housemates are helping either by drawing attention to it at every opportunity.
It is nice to see that they still get on though and there are no bitter feelings between them.
I just hope this whole experience gives Chantelle some closure and hopefully she will now be able to deal with all her unresolved issues involving her ex.
Do you think they should give it another try? Or do you think their relationship belongs in the past? Let me know.

Monday 30 August 2010

You can find love in the strangest places

Now they always say that you find love when you least expect it but I never expected to be asked out on a date while I was having my car washed!
You can probably tell from my last few posts that there has not been much action for me on the date front and I especially find things difficult this time of year for lots of different man related reasons!
But putting all that aside I was asked out on a date to the cinema by a man who was washing my car at my local car wash.
However despite not having been on a date in over a year I managed to dodge the question and turn him because he was just not my type but I have to say it felt very good to be asked.
This all happened when I was on my way back from work so was in my uniform (which is not the most flattering), my make up all worn off and shattered from the long day.
And as I settled down with a magazine to let him get on with his job, he decided we were going to have a chat.
Which went really well and the conversation flowed nicely but I just didn't feel any spark.
So even though I am not going on the date it has given my self confidence a huge boost which is actually all I needed.

Monday 23 August 2010

Movie Womaniser's

Here are the Top 10 Movie Womaniser's as published on msn.co.uk.
Do you agree? Who do you think should have made the cut?
1. James Bond
2. Alfie
3. Trent in Swingers
4. Frank in Magnolia
5. Wedding Crashers boys
6. Captain Jack Sparrow
7. Austin Powers
8. Daniel Cleaver in Bridget Jones Diary
9. Casanova
10. Harry in Burn After Reading

Friday 23 July 2010

Who would be your perfect man?



A body image has been conducted to find out what the perfect man would be made up of.


Created by http://www.myprotein.com/ the survey was taken by 1,510 men and 1,204 women who chose between Brad Pitt's face and Frank Lampard's legs to put together their perfect man.


Here is what the men came up with:


Hair: Gerard Butler


Face: Brad Pitt


Shoulders: Hugh Jackman


Chest: Will Smith


Arms: Vin Diesel


Abs: Matthew McConaughy


Legs: Jonny Wilkinson


And here is what the women came up with:


Hair: David Beckham


Face: Johnny Depp


Shoulders: Taylor Lautner


Chest: Daniel Craig


Arms: Rafael Nadal


Abs: Ryan Reynolds


Legs: Frank Lampard


Do you agree? Let me know who would make up your man.

Thursday 10 June 2010

World Cup

I thought I would share with you all an email I was sent at work which made me smile which is a list of rules for women who are not interested in watching the football written by their other half.
1. From Friday, June 11, to July 11, please update yourself on what is going on regarding the World Cup so that you can join in the conversations. Otherwise you may be looked at in a bad way, or totally ignored.
2. During the World Cup, the television is mine, at all times, without any expectations. If you even glimpse at the remote control, you will lose it.
3. You may walk in front of the TV during a game, as long as you do it crawling on the floor and without distracting me. If you decide to stand nude in front of the TV, make sure you put clothes on right after because if you catch a cold, I won't have time to take you to the doctor or look after you.
4. During the games I will be blind, deaf and mute, unless I require a refill of my drink or something to eat. You are out of your mind if you expect me to listen to you, open the door, answer the telephone, or pick the baby up that just fell from the second floor.
5. Kindly keep at least two six packs in the fridge at all times, and please do not make any funny faces to my friends when they come over to watch the games. In return you will be allowed to use the TV between 12am and 6am.
6. If you see me upset because one of my teams is losing do not say 'get over it, it's only a game' or 'don't worry, they'll win next time.' These words will only make me angrier and I will love you less.
7. You are welcome to sit with me to watch one game and you can talk to me during half time when adverts are on and only if the half time score is pleasing to me.
8. The replays of the goals are important. Whether I have seen them or not, I want to see them again. Many times. And do not say 'but you have already seen this, why don't you change the channel to something we can all watch?' As the reply will be, see rule #2.
9. Tell your friends not to have babies or any other child-related parties or gatherings that require my attendance because I will not go.
10. Finally please save your expression such as 'thank goodness the World Cup is only every four years' as I am immune to these words because after this comes the Premier League, the Champions League and in two years the Euros.

Now I know this doesn't apply to every couple as I for one will be watching and enjoying as much as the tournament as possible and to add to that I am flying off to South Africa on Tuesday.
Look out for me on Friday night during England vs Algeria.
Bon Voyage!

Saturday 5 June 2010

World Cup Widows


Now as I am sure you all know the World Cup starts next week.

And this could mean that those of you in a relationship could become a World Cup widow.

Your man will be in front of a television screen at least twice a day watching match after match.

If that doesn't sound like your cup of tea, here are a few alternatives than watching the beautiful game.

1. Watch Sex and the City 2

2. Go shopping

3. Have a picnic in the park

4. Try wine tasting

5. Bake goodies

6. Have a girly film night

7. Go dancing

8. Snuggle up with a good book

9. Do something you have always wanted to do

10. Organise your wardrobe


So for those of you who aren't interested in the football this summer give one of these a go.


Saturday 29 May 2010

The 10 rules of guilty crushes

Carrying on from my last post I have decided to share with you the 10 rules of guilty crushes as published in Cosmopolitan magazine.
1. Everyone's allowed one famous guilty pleasure.
2. If you daydream about your boss's son or your boyfriend's dad - don't tell anyone.
3. Never confess to a cartoon crush.
4. An accidental 'hey, how've you been?' works fine in the office - not outside his house.
5. Women are allowed.
6. If you find yourself fancying your best friend's man, picture him doing the macarena wearing a monkey thong.
7. If your guilty crush is your boss make sure to check his status before asking him for a drink. You don't want to have to deal with his wife.
8. Silver foxes (George Clooney, Richard Gere) are acceptable older crushes. Des Lynam - not so much.
9. Don't write you+your crushes name in your notepad and then leave it unattended.
10. Make your crush work to your advantage. Getting an extra shot in Starbucks or extra help with your workload.

Wednesday 26 May 2010

Weird Crushes

Now I'm sure we all have that crush that we don't want to admit to because it's embarassing.
Well mine is Richard Hammond - whose yours?
Why not see if they made it to the top 25 weird crushes 2009 voted for by Heat magazine.
Who would make your top 25 for 2010?

Sex And The City 2

There are only two days to go before Sex and the City 2 hits the big screen. And I for one can't wait!

It has been a long two years without these four fab ladies being on our big screen and along with the clothes and shoes I am desperate to see what has been happening between Carrie and Mr Big.

Has it been wedded bliss for the pair? Well seeing as SPOILER ALERT I have seen Aidan in the trailer below I fear there could be some problems on the horizon.

Now I know this isn't real but these ladies always make me feel better about man troubles that come about because at least one - if not all - have been through it all at least once before.

So slip on your Manolo Blahniks and get the girls together and make a night of it.

Check out the trailer for a teaser!

Saturday 22 May 2010

I've lost my mojo

I am about to make an admission that I probably shouldn't be making on the world wide web but this blog is all about relationships highs and lows and this is a major low.
I haven't kissed a boy in nearly a year - and it's not out of choice either.
Over the last year I have found I have either become too choosy or I have just not had the opportunity.
When I first started to get back out there after coming to terms with being single again since 17 I would get chatted up and approached by men in pubs and clubs.
But now at 22 anyone who plucks up the courage to approach me I automatically dismiss them -sometimes without even looking at them.
And now in the past few weeks I don't get any attention at all - nothing, na da, zilch.
I would like to think that I am just having too much fun to notice but I fear this isn't the case.
I think what my main problem is I would like to meet someone who has a similar taste in music to me - I want a boyfriend who will want to take me to Download Festival - not Global Gathering.
So depending on where I am could automatically kill your chances if I see you singing every word to DJ what's her name!
I just hope my perfect man is out there somewhere - and that he is not afraid to approach me!

Sunday 14 March 2010

My faith in men

Now I know I haven't updated this in a while but unfortunately my love life has taken a serious nose dive and I haven't had much material.
It also hasn't helped that my faith in men has been completely shattered over the past few months as one after another footballers and popstars have been found to be love rats.
Why can men not keep it in their pants? They should be grateful that a beautiful woman has chosen them to spend their life with them and not be so greedy.
It all started with John Terry.
Now I am a Chelsea fan and him being the captain of my football team he was my hero.
And then I find out he has cheated on his wife with his best friend's ex girlfriend.
Then there was Ashley Cole - another Chelsea footballer - but to be honest this one came as no surprise and I hope Cheryl Cole continues to see sense and never lets him near her again.
Then came Vernon Kay. He never actually cheated on his wife but what he did was shameful.
And now Mark Owen and Howard Donald from Take That have admitted to cheating.
How are women expected to trust a man when they are capable of doing this to us?